Everything happens for a reason, good and bad.

Everything happens for a reason and me today, I strongly believe this, but before there were times when I really questioned if this is true.  In the laws of attraction and the Secret it says that positive attracts positive and negative attract negative.  It also mentions how people question how they could attract something so negative and have a hard time believing it.  


When we are trying to create change chaos comes, we will be tested to see if we really want it, there will be obstacles that we have to overcome and those are life lessons that will help us learn and grow.  When we are changing and starting to step into our element we will be shaking things up. It’s a difficult process to entail especially if we are stuck in a negative frame of mind or surrounded by negativity.  


For example, your life is like water, if you throw a stone in water it will cause a ripple affect which will carry out throughout the water, the water will calm again after. The ripple effect will depend on the size of stone, rock or boulder that we are throwing in the water.


Life can be rough sometimes and bad things happen.  We can keep our water as calm as possible however others who have a big boulder thrown in their section will cause a ripple effect in our own.  This is where we need to learn how to stay in a positive mind frame. Again, negative attracts negative and positive attracts positive.  Sadly, we have a lot of people who are stuck in the negative and they struggle.  They need more kindness not more hate or anger. As we all know water is life and we are made up of mostly water.  Therefore, we need to start being mindful of how we treat each other. 


I have made many mistakes in my life, I made a huge one three years ago at the beginning of March 2016, which had an effect on my mental health, family, friends, community and my new business at the time Yotuni.  I reached out to a lady I met at a workshop and Michelle was a motivational speaker and empowered women to be leaders and she gave me great advice and said I had to make a choice at that time, was I going to feed into my anger and walk the negative path and focus my energy on chasing the guy who ripped me off or was I going to continue focusing on helping the children and youth.  I picked the children and youth and it was a very long, lonely, hard path to take, I had to fight negative self-talk, depression, loneliness and most of all except and learn from failure.  I am very thankful for my choice because I am where I am today. 


For the longest time I regretted that mistake and carried a lot of guilt and shame.  I had to learn how to heal and grow from this and today I don’t regret it.  It is a part of who I am.  I am a lot stronger and wiser now because of that mistake.  It took me three years to bounce back and my business grew but slowly but now I am a strong believer in everything happens for a reason and I am thankful for it all, the good and the bad.  It all made me who I am today.  I am not perfect, nor do I strive to be.  I am me, there is always room to learn and grow and I will make mistakes in life however I will not let those mistakes define me in a negative way.  I will learn the lesson, forgive myself and those whom ever need to be forgiven and more forward.  


Society can be cruel, and people can be judgemental however that is how we are taught to be.  We are taught think of people in levels and nobody wants to be on the lower levels, which sadly is where most of our People are “classified”.  People like to throw our mistakes in our face, however that is because they struggle with accepting their own mistakes.  Just like when they say you point one finger at someone there are three more pointing back at our self.   


This is where we need to be extra kind with ourselves, surround ourselves with positive people and work through our emotions.  Watch motivational videos and funny movies, put positive quotes around your home to remind you to stay positive or listen to music that inspires you and stay away from music that makes you more sad and angry. 



We are all human and we are going to have our high moments and we are going to hit some lows.  However, we have a choice, are we going to stay low and negative and drown ourselves with negativity, regret, guilt or shame, or are we going to pick the higher road and stay positive and give ourselves love, compassion, and room to learn, heal and grow. 


You are an amazing person and have many gifts and talents to share with the world.  Be you, be kind to yourself and reach out for help.  Don’t let that inner negative voice or the negative voices of others beat you down.  Pick to be strong and work through the emotions.  Don’t bury them, that will do you no good because those emotions will turn into a ticking time bomb that will go off eventually and probably at the worst timing.  Cry, for that is medicine and yourself working through those emotions.  You will get through this and when you do you will be so much more stronger and wiser. You got this!!         

Note please if you don’t have anything nice to say then please don’t say anything at all.  All negative comments will be deleted.  Please feel free to share this post, your thoughts and opinions so that we can learn and grow together.