Be kind wth your words - 4 min read

I am getting into facilitating and educating people of all ages from all walks of life and it’s such a blessing and great learning experience. I know that a lot of people that I talk to walk away feeling inspired however have heavy hearts from the truth that they hear. I am so proud of them for taking a big step to create change and I decided to start writing blogs in hopes of continuing to help people after they attend one of my circles or workshops, or anyone who is in need of extra guidance and support. 

To be honest like a lot of challenges in life I was hesitant on starting a blog. I know I am good at explaining things and storytelling and want to share those gifts, but I always tend to overthink things. I was determined to get this blog out in the New Year, which clearly came and passed. I then told myself the beginning of February, then put February 22, 2019.  On that day the 22nd, I wanted to change the date again but realized I can’t set a date, I need to just get it done. 

I myself always over think things and sometimes that can be a blessing and other times it’s a curse. I kept thinking of what I should write first, I have many ideas and already have a lot of writing done but again I was over thinking of how to do it instead of just starting to write.

I was just recently talking about how actions speak louder than words.  We are always talking about what we want and can do and complaining about things and people, but we don’t take positive actions.  For myself its being scared of the unknown.  I was worried what if people take what I say the wrong way.  People are hurting and although they don’t intend on hurting people, the truth is they do with their words. We need to be kind with our words especially when we are angry and not liking something or someone.  In today’s society people jump at the chance to say something negative especially on social media, and I am not going to lie sometimes I get my popcorn out, get comfortable and start reading away.  Drama and negativity is addictive.  But afterwards I am just as angry as those people saying all those mean stuffs.   Those words, and tones are going through my mind, it doesn’t feel good and it’s not healthy. What people say, and do sometimes, actually a lot of times is far from kind and has an effect on people. I taught my niece and nephew that when someone says something mean it’s because they are hurting or maybe someone talks mean to them and to not take what others say personally.  However, that is a very hard strength to master. We are human, we are sensitive and what others say and do, do affect us. I myself am guilty of using my words in a bad way at times.  I too had to teach myself to be kind and be mindful of how my words affect others.  There are times when I still catch myself and I check myself before I wreck myself.  Being a leader, we need to lead by example and I have a past that I am not proud of but very proud of. I have made plenty of mistakes and I have learned from those mistakes and now teach others how to do the same.  So here is my first blog post.  And reminder to myself and others please be kind with your words. There will be times when someone says something, and it makes us angry. However, the truth is it’s not them that hurt you it’s a word they used that triggered something in you, a buried emotion or memory and when we hear or read certain things it triggers emotions of anger, guilt, shame, and other negativity, we then react negatively. We (as in myself too) need to remember to be mindful and there will be times when we are not and react and its not our finest moment, but don’t beat yourself up about it too much.  Forgive yourself, acknowledge that you did use negative words and made a mistake and work on not reacting that way in the future. It’s like learning how to walk, you will need to fall down a few times but the more mindful you become the more you catch yourself doing certain negative things and you then learn to check yourself before you wreck yourself. 

Note please if you don’t have anything nice to say then please don’t say anything at all.  All negative comments will be deleted.  Please feel free to share this post, your thoughts and opinions so that we can learn and grow together. 

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